LySaundra Janeé

Music. Justice. Resilience.



29 Days of Living Well: BEAR FRUIT - KINDNESS

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

Galatians 5:22-23

I dated a guy several years ago and remember an intensive argument. I don’t remember exactly what we were fighting about but many words were exchanged and at some point, I called him a deadbeat dad. Immediately, I recognized I had gone too far. 

At the time, I felt like my words were true and relevant to the topic, or argument, at hand. In retrospect, my words were not necessary. 

The word used for kindness in this verse describes what is “useful.” We could even say what is edifying. My words that night were not being used to edify my partner, only to win a petty argument. Kindness doesn’t absolve you from potentially hurt feelings, but it does not intentionally use words to cut through someone’s vulnerability. 

I’ve always been observant and knew how to push the right-wrong buttons during an argument. Choosing to do so wasn’t practicing kindness. Before speaking or writing words, I have to ask myself, and more importantly ask God, is what I’m about to say going to add value to someone’s life? Is it really that useful? Will it be edifying? Or is it just meant to be slanderous? 

This is why I don’t tweet very often… most things get deleted! What about you? How do you practice kindness in words and actions?